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tonytobar:

What if verbal abuse left the same scars as physical abuse? Would it be taken more seriously? That’s what photographer Richard Johnson hopes to accomplish with his new photo project, “Weapons of Choice.”

The series uses a makeup artist to put bruises and scars on photo subjects. Embedded in these violent marks are some hateful words typically associated with abuse, such as “Stupid,” “Dumb,” “Trash” and others that are much, much worse.

WOW.

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damewendy:

writingnotebooks:

Ooooh, I LOVE this question!
Lots of people keep journals with systematic diary entries, but I understand that it doesn’t work for everyone.
Here are some cool/interesting/fun/motivational/productive things you can do that don’t necessarily include keeping a diary:
Turn a Moleskine (or other notebook) into a planner/organizer/PDA/productivity system
52 lists
30 Days of Lists
Answer "50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind"
Start a gratitude journal
Create a "life handbook"
Keep morning pages
Start a scrapbook
Use journal prompts to answer questions when you feel like it
Participate in the 7-week Life Cleanse
Keep these 9 lists updated — REALLY useful things to keep track of!
Take notes as you learn something new
Use a notebook to keep track of goal-setting and productivity: 60 Ways to Improve Your Life in 100 Days
Keep a recipe book
Keep a reading journal/movie journal/music journal/fashion journal
Start a quote book
Make a travel journal — use it to plan your trip/vacation, then glue in transportation ticket stubs, itineraries, maps, photographs, dinner receipts at fancy restaurants, and write about your adventures
Doodle in it
Write poetry
Cut out and glue pretty pictures
Create a bucket list journal and record each item as you complete it
Does that give you enough ideas to start with? :)
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reblog to look at later. I love notebooks. It’s ridiculous how many I have. But I adore them


www.bulletjournal is AMAZING. Seriously, check it out. For the very first time in my life, I’m using a journal in a way that WORKS for me and completely makes sense to me. And it’s free (it’s a video and pics that suggests how to use a journal you already have; they aren’t selling anything). :)

damewendy:

writingnotebooks:

Ooooh, I LOVE this question!

Lots of people keep journals with systematic diary entries, but I understand that it doesn’t work for everyone.

Here are some cool/interesting/fun/motivational/productive things you can do that don’t necessarily include keeping a diary:

Does that give you enough ideas to start with? :)

(Made rebloggable by request.)

reblog to look at later. I love notebooks. It’s ridiculous how many I have. But I adore them

www.bulletjournal is AMAZING. Seriously, check it out. For the very first time in my life, I’m using a journal in a way that WORKS for me and completely makes sense to me. And it’s free (it’s a video and pics that suggests how to use a journal you already have; they aren’t selling anything). :)

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desirethepositive:

I want to open a really angry coffee shop called “I’m Not a Morning Person” and name all the drinks really angrily

like “can I get a Fuck You” or a “I’m Studying for Finals” or “My In-Laws are in Town”

and they all have shots of tequila in them

who wants to be my business partner

+ the Mandatory Overtime
+ the Rush Hour Traffic Jam
+ the IRS Audit
+ the Performance Review
+ the Optional Saturday Training

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When he straightened again, there were six Harry Potters gasping and panting in front of him. 
Fred and George turned to each other and said together, “Wow- we’re identical!” 
"I dunno, though, I think I’m still better-looking," said Fred, examining his reflection in the kettle. 

This will never, ever be okay. :( 3

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I’m always very fascinated by this moment. Downton is a show that is really about Slytherin and Ravenclaw women, with the men as their softer, Hufflepuff complements. Especially through the prism of Mary, Downton has always exemplified that women themselves wore their own soldier’s uniform. The motif of Mary looking into mirrors has always been important in this regard— every day, this is a woman who gets up and puts on her own uniform to go to battle, that is, the battle of the drawing room, the battle of social small talk, the battle of courtship, the battle of marriage. I’m enthralled by the armor women wear, the way they fasten their masks on, the turmoil that belies a cool and engaging exterior. 

At this point in 2x04, Mary is feeling at her lowest. She’s not just sad or heart stricken, but she’s living with emotions that are all the more terrible because of the way they psychologically stretch time: the emotions of fear and dread that the worst has happened. Mary acclimates to the battle of the aristocracy because she knows she’s good at it; she slowly comes to regard it as an arbitrary set of rules and standards, but it’s a set of rules and standards that she was brought up in and knows very well. She is—and always will be— completely about the conscious construction of identity. She roleplays. And in this moment, in a moment of despair, a moment when any softer person would probably curl up into a ball on their bed and just weep, you can see her visibly putting on that armor, letting the role of “Lady Mary” wash over the scared girl who is just Mary. In a way, it’s very similar to the Mary we see at the end of 4x01, a grief stricken widow who knows she has a part to play, so instead of waking up and putting on the black dress, she decides that today, she will dress the part of a business woman coming out of mourning, a woman ready to tackle estate issues. For me, I’ve always felt that this is where Fellowes is telling his audience that Mary is first and foremost a sympathetic heroine, a rolemodel even. She never settles for just being less than what she is, which is someone who she knows can wield power over people. So every day she dresses the part. She doesn’t just fake it till she makes it, but she fakes it till she truly embodies it with style and flare. She is the opposite of Sartre’s waiter who, in bad faith, is consciously deceiving himself and is inauthentic. Mary, rather, embodies her choice, creates herself, and acts completely in accordance with it. And what’s so telling about this specific moment is that you can see all of that wash over her in about three seconds. 

All of this…and interesting HP connections! I’m not so sure how to categorize Mary, in particular, though. She is driven to fill a role she’s been taught she must play, and is brave in ways that are different than those of the soldiers at the front, but no less real. Gryffindior? (I may be blinded by the Maggie Smith connection). The Crawley girls are hard to pin down—but Matthew’s definitely a Hufflepuff! Sir Richard is the consummate Slytherin who thought he’d found his match in Mary, which shows he didn’t get her at all.

I’m going to have to think about this one….

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